How to Find the Confidence to Book a Boudoir Session
Confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can wear” … Paris Hilton (and many others)
How to Find the Confidence to Book a Boudoir Photoshoot. A Guide to Booking a Boudoir Photoshoot
It’s hard not to feel instant envy when you see a friend’s Boudoir Photos. You might wonder to yourself “how did she get the confidence to do it! I want photos like that. Maybe she just has more courage than I do.”
For many people, booking a boudoir photoshoot can be an intimidating and scary prospect. Why? Well, there are many reasons not least because many people believe that Boudoir means wearing ‘not very many clothes’ and while that is often the case for many of our clients, it’s entirely up to you what you wear. Some women want to wear dresses and glam up without resorting to lingerie at all and that’s totally fine. We call that ‘Modest Boudoir’ or ‘Glamorous Boudoir’
More than 50% of our clients have some body image issues, whether due to the ageing process or because of kids or whatever reason, these women just don’t love themselves anymore and, frankly, this is why they come to us. It’s our job to try and give our clients permission to look in the mirror once again and love what they see. This is the beauty of Boudoir.
Overcoming the fear of the unknown, the lack of confidence and anxiety about stepping outside of comfort zones is what stops women from booking a Boudoir Experience in the first place.
Overcoming these fears and concerns requires patience, self-compassion, and support. Working with a trusted and experienced boudoir photographer who understands these fears can help create a safe and empowering environment. Through open communication, understanding, and self-acceptance, women can gradually find the courage to book a boudoir photoshoot and experience the transformative journey for themselves. It can often take a while. Many of our clients watch us on facebook or via our Blog for months, sometimes years before they feel ready to take the plunge and book.
Trust us when we say, the hardest bit is booking. After that, we hold your hand every step of the way. All you have to do is turn up and we take care of the rest. Easy. (and so much Fun!)
Embracing your unique beauty and celebrating your body is a powerful journey that every woman deserves to embark on. One transformative way to embrace self-love and boost your confidence is through a Boudoir Photoshoot. Here, we will explore how to find the confidence to book a boudoir photoshoot, step by step. From overcoming insecurities to selecting the right photographer, let's dive into the empowering world of boudoir photography and while you might not feel as uninhibited as you would like, you can build the confidence to get your own boudoir photos and love every minute of it. Here are some effective ways to work toward making your perfect boudoir shoot happen.
• Embracing Self-Love: To embark on a boudoir photoshoot, it's crucial to cultivate self-love. Embrace your body, acknowledge your unique beauty, and recognise that you deserve to feel confident and empowered. Essentially, we’re saying that to give this experience a chance to help improve your body image, try and ‘cut yourself some slack’ (We know it’s easier said than done) #SelfLove #BodyPositivity
• Overcoming Insecurities: Addressing insecurities is an important part of the journey. Understand that everyone has insecurities, and Boudoir Photography can help you celebrate your body as it is right now.(Not after you’ve ‘lost a few pounds’) Try to embrace your flaws and see them as part of your beautiful story. Understand that you are, what we like to call, ‘imperfectly perfect’ #EmbraceYourFlaws #ConfidenceFromWithin
• Setting Intentions: Before booking a boudoir photoshoot, set out some clear intentions. Reflect on what you hope to gain from the experience. Whether it's boosting self-esteem or embracing your sensuality, clarify your goals to guide you throughout the process. #IntentionSetting #BoudoirGoals
• Researching Photographers: Finding the right photographer is crucial. Research carefully and choose a photographer who specialises in Boudoir Photography, resonates with your style, and creates a safe and comfortable environment. Read reviews, view portfolios, stalk them on Social Media, ask them questions, join their private facebook group and connect with their previous clients to ensure a positive experience. #BoudoirPhotographer #PhotographerSelection
• Planning and Preparing: Prepare for your boudoir photoshoot by selecting outfits that make you feel confident and beautiful. Consider lingerie, accessories, or personal items that hold sentimental value. Discuss wardrobe options with your photographer to ensure a cohesive vision. #BoudoirOutfit #ConfidentStyle
• Poses and Expressions: During the photoshoot, trust your photographer's expertise in guiding you through poses and expressions that flatter your body and capture your unique essence. (Remember, you researched your photographer carefully. Now learn to trust them) Communicate your preferences and comfort level throughout the session. #BoudoirPoses #ConfidentExpressions
• Professional Hair and Makeup: Hair and Makeup services are essential in a Boudoir Photoshoot. It costs a little extra but trust us when we say this is not a cost worth saving. Boudoir Experiences are never cheap but the cheaper you try and make it the more of an ‘expense’ everything will seem to be. Spend the extra and the money will eventually come back but now your ‘expense’ will seem more like a wise ‘investment’! #GlamMakeup #StunningHair
• Embracing the Experience: Approach your boudoir photoshoot with an open mind and a positive attitude. Embrace the experience as a celebration of your beauty and a journey towards self-empowerment. Relax, have fun, and trust in the process. #BoudoirExperience #SelfEmpowerment
• Celebrating Your Images: After your Boudoir photoshoot, anticipate the joy of seeing your final images. Celebrate your unique beauty captured through the lens and cherish the moments of self-expression and empowerment. Share your images proudly or keep them as a personal reminder of your journey. #BoudoirImages #SelfExpression
Remember, Booking a boudoir photoshoot is an act of self-love and empowerment.
By embracing your unique beauty, overcoming insecurities, and finding the right photographer, you can embark on a transformative journey towards increased confidence.
Creative Outfits and Costume Ideas
Think outside the box. Maybe you want to make your man’s work uniform naughty. Maybe you want to shed your good girl image by opting for lingerie in dark colors instead of your normal pastels and light hues. Or maybe you want to let your inner sexy nurse, or teacher out. (fifty shades of gray anyone?)
Your idea of desirable can be completely different from everybody else’s version of it. Plus, nobody said that just because you’re a woman, you have to love lacey fabrics and corset tops. If you feel sexiest in knee-high sweater socks or a cozy t-shirt, wear that! Just about anything can be made alluring if you feel foxy. You don’t have to become someone else just to take boudoir photos.
Accessories
Don’t forget your accessories, including your engagement ring if you’re giving your guy boudoir images as a wedding present. Jewelry! A group of long pearl necklaces with nothing else can be ultimately sexy. Don’t like pearls, bring any type of long necklace. Also, statement pieces can bring the eye straight to your cleavage, and big chunky jewelry can add to your look. Bring along two or three different pairs of sexy heels.
Deciding to Go Nude
Most of the time once you are in front of the camera and feel confident you may decide to bare it all. If you do decide to be completely nude, remember that you still don’t have to show everything off. It’s not necessary to do a full-frontal photo; a lot of the sexiness in boudoir photos comes from what’s being concealed, not what’s shown. Implied nudity is very sensual and can be achieved in many different ways. By covering up with a sheet or using props such as flowers, or a newspaper. Let your photographer be creative for the best photos.
Still, finding it hard to be photographed entirely in the buff? If you’re dead set on having a nude boudoir shoot but you just can’t seem to get comfortable with the idea at first, a little liquid courage may help. Pour a glass of wine or bubbly to help you loosen up just a smidge. That way, your photos will look natural and relaxed, not forced.
Final Thoughts…
If you’re still not 100% sure of your boudoir outfits, bring along multiple options. You don’t have to have your outfits solidified before you arrive – I will do a wardrobe consultation to help you pull different looks together from whatever you bring with you.