Why You Deserve a Boudoir Experience
“If you don't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”…RuPaul
Our daughter is addicted to RuPAUL on the TV so we have heard that expression a thousand times and everytime it resonates in the most powerful way.
Sometimes when we get nervous, we make up excuses not to do something. Of course, for many, the thought of being photographed causes real anxiety so the excuses come thick and fast. ‘Don’t have the time’, ‘Not at my ideal weight right now,’ ‘Not feeling sexy’, ‘don’t have the money’, - Mostly our excuses are just a way of saying we don’t love ourselves. That RuPaul statement is so true. One of the biggest problems we encounter is that people don’t love themselves, they believe all the negative lies they’ve told themselves over the years, that they’re ‘not good enough’ and then that negativity starts to rub off on the people around them.
Take ‘feeling sexy’ for example. If you don’t feel sexy, it’s extremely difficult to show physical affection towards your partner. It’s the classic case of lost libido and, naturally, your partner will take this as you thinking that they’re not sexy. This can easily lead to lack of intimacy on both sides and the eventual breakdown of the relationship. This is why we believe that learning to love yourself is fundamental. It’s key to almost everything good in our lives. When you learn to love yourself, you will feel more positive and confident , you will enjoy everything in life and all those around you so much more. A Boudoir Photoshoot is ideal for showing you that you really are good enough. It will help you to overcome those negative voices in your head. A Boudoir Photoshoot will let you see what others see in you and allow you to fall in love with yourself.
Let’s bust those objections one by one…
“I don’t have enough time for myself”
It’s also important to remember that if you aren’t taking care of yourself mentally, you’re not going to be able to handle taking care of everyone else, which makes sense but is actually much harder than it seems. No matter how hectic life gets, it’s important that you take the time to slow down and give yourself a break. A break from work, a break from the kids, a break from the stress of your daily routine.
At a Madison Bou boudoir shoot we create an environment where you’re encouraged to leave all the stress and negativity at the door and step into a stress free and judgement free world, if only for a few hours. A world where you will stop comparing yourself to others and stop worrying about what others might think. You’ll have an amazing time getting glammed up where the only person that matters is you.
Yep, it sounds a little selfish and self indulgent but, trust us when we say, this will do you so much good it will positively wash over onto your friends and family as well. How happy are the kids going to be when they see Mummy feeling supercharged with positive energy? Well, that’s going to positive for them as well.
“I don’t feel sexy or sensual anymore so a Boudoir isn’t for me.”
WRONG! Actually, this excuse is actually the reason why you SHOULD do a boudoir shoot. Too often we lose touch with our femininity or sexuality when life gets crazy because of stress at work or from exhaustion after being a parent 24/7. It happens a lot and it is absolutely normal for so many people to go through periods of not feeling sexy. A great way to find this sexy side of ourselves again is to have a Boudoir Photoshoot which will bring out that sexy side again. The spark is there, it may just need igniting again!
Another thing to keep in mind is that you don’t HAVE to wear super sexy clothing or lingerie.
If you’re not comfortable wearing lingerie then there are so many other ways to dress for feeling sexy.
What about a ‘first date’ dress? a stretchy jumper, ripped jeans and cropped t-shirt? Whatever makes you feel sexy is what will bring ‘sexy back’.
“I’m not at my ideal weight/I don’t fit the media’s idea of a good enough size”
(Whatever the heck that means!!)
Did you know that the body type normally shown in advertising as the ideal is possessed naturally by only 5% of women? FIVE PERCENT.
WHY OH WHY do you have to be a certain size to LOVE yourself? WHY do you have to fit someone else’s messed up idea of a perfect body to LOVE your own body?
WHY are you comparing your size to everyone else, when no 2 women are the same!
It’s one thing to want to be healthy so if that’s the reason for going to the gym, then more power to you but trying to be a certain size because other people tell you it looks better will just lead to frustration and resentment if you can’t reach that ‘perfect size 0’ Everyone is different, every body is unique and this is a good thing. Celebrate who you are and celebrate your amazing body. With curves, without curves, whatever. As we age and have children, our bodie go through incredible changes and this is something to celebrate not to wage war against.
Love yourself every step of the way. Be proud of where you are so that you can be proud of where you’re going.
Have a boudoir shoot to celebrate where you are now, and then have one when you lose that 15 lbs to celebrate how far you’ve come!
“A boudoir shoot is an investment and I don’t have all the money right now.”
Yep, no two ways about it, a Boudoir Photoshoot IS an investment in yourself. You are investing in your well-being and self confidence as well! However, we do offer installments!
In order to book your shoot, there is a session fee of £189, which pays for venue hire and hair and makeup with full styling throughout and after that we can set up your payment plan for the remaining amount so you can pick the pictures you love displayed the way you want.
It still amazes us that we pay a thousand pounds for a mobile phone and that lasts around 2 years, yet a Boudoir Photoshoot will have positive pychological benefits which will last for decades and, rather than being mass produced, is unique to you. A once in a lifetime experience. Something truly special like that is worth paying for, don’t you think?
