WHEN YOU KNOW YOUR WORTH, NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU FEEL WORTHLESS.

Written By Dave Sander
 

KNOW YOUR WORTH – THEN NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU FEEL WORTHLESS 

Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror and felt absolutely worthless?

No?

Then trust us when we say, you are one of the lucky ones. You know your worth. That’s rare.

Many people feel worthless at some time in their life.

During a difficult period in a relationship or a divorce. When something goes wrong at work or maybe helping the kids with homework hasn’t gone as smoothly as hoped.

Feelings of worthlessness can come at any time in your life, but if you are suddenly feeling like you can’t do anything right, or that you aren’t worthy of the things you have in your life –  you might start to wonder what has happened to your self-confidence.

One of the most common reasons women come to us for a photoshoot experience is to rebuild some of their lost confidence.

Sometimes, low self-confidence or low self-esteem dates back to childhood.

We meet many women who have grown up in households where they have been repeatedly told how worthless they are.

Sometimes these women then fall into adult relationships where their partner reinforces that belief system of worthlessness.

It doesn’t take too much negativity before you start believing that everything you do is worthless.

Maybe the boss dresses you down in a meeting, the kids scream at you for being a ‘bad Mum’, your partner saying the house is a mess, the shower starts leaking, you miss an appointment at the Dentist… Nothing individually but all together, these things can create real turmoil in your mind.

You feel like your emotional pressure cup is full to the brim and one more thing will push you over the edge.

Many of us spend so much time looking at others and wishing we had what they have.

Their car is better, their kids seem to be better behaved, that dress looks so much better on her…

 What we should do is stop comparing ourselves and start being more grateful for what we have right now.

WHEN YOU KNOW YOUR WORTH, NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU FEEL WORTHLESS.

One of the best portrait photographers in the world, Jerry Ghionis, has a saying ” I don’t need to be the best, I just need to be better than I was last week” – This is such a good mantra to take the pressure off being good at everything. Work on yourself first and never mind anyone else. This is the best way to improve your own self-worth.

The last few year has seen millions of us affected around the country and feel worthless because of job loss or, at the very least, because of not having a job to do.

We often gain a sense of worth in society through our careers and when we suddenly find ourselves having to stay home for months, our self worth can plummet.

It’s at times like this that the negativity can truly set in and some people are more prone to it than others.

Many Doctors will say the secret to getting rid of negativity is exercise. That hour of exercise every day as recommended by the government is not just to keep our bodies and hearts healthy but our minds as well.

My heart surgeon told me recently that I have three options. Surgery, drugs for the rest of my life or diet and exercise. He showed me the graphs of recovery. Modern Medicine can only do so much. Diet and exercise was by far and away the route with the best success rate. When you feel healthier, you gain more confidence and everything becomes so much easier.

Health and Mindset are hugely connected and are an invaluable route to know your worth.

 

ANXIETY is another major factor towards our feeling of self-worth.

Specifically, anxiety of the future.

The credit card bill that will soon arrive, next week’s result from the Doctors, the meeting with the boss next week … These are all things in the future. No wonder we suffer anxiety if we worry about all the things that haven’t happened yet.

Focusing on today and sorting out one thing at a time is something that’s often recommended to reduce the stress of anxiety.

Seizing the Day now and not worrying about tomorrow is a useful technique for reducing the pressure you put on yourself.

Tomorrow may never happen so ‘today’ is all you have, right now.

CARPE DIEM – SEIZE THE DAY – NOW, NOT TOMORROW.

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